What does it mean to be free? More specifically, how does freedom manifest in love? Today’s conversation with Zoë and Andrew begins with Zoë expressing her impatience with her healing process after oral surgery and her praise for Andrew for taking care of her throughout. Then, we dive into the definition of freedom and why we’ve chosen it as today’s topic before examining what freedom in a relationship looks and feels like. We also learn how to seek understanding without judgment, why curiosity matters, why Zoë and Andrew are freer now than in any of their previous relationships, and how one’s upbringing influences one’s view of freedom in a relationship. To end, we unpack the importance of being open to receiving and accepting love, and we explore self-love as the best starting point and pathway to achieving relationship freedom.

Key Points From This Episode:

• Zoë’s current state after her recent oral surgery and praise for Andrew’s attentive care.

• Defining “freedom” and why we’ve chosen it as today’s topic.

• How freedom manifests in love: what freedom in a relationship looks and feels like.

• Seeking understanding without assigning blame, looking inward, and curiosity.

• How judgment kills relationships.

• Why Zoë and Andrew feel freer in their marriage compared to previous relationships.

• Lovemaps: how upbringing influences one’s understanding of freedom in a relationship.

• Why it’s vital to be open to receiving and accepting love.

• Exploring self-love as the best preparation for freedom in a relationship.

Quotes:

“I get to enjoy the gift of giving and it’s part of my love language – and I get to see you flourish.” — Andrew [0:01:41]

“You must love in such a way that the person you love feels free.” — Zoë Kors [0:02:54]

“One of the things that I really value – is curiosity. I value a partner or a friend or conversations in which somebody is curious.” — Zoë Kors [0:10:56]

“Freedom also requires a certain level of trust.” — Zoë Kors [0:20:53]

“Sometimes, [staying in abusive relationships] it’s because people don’t know what else there is out there. They don’t know how good it could be.” — Andrew [0:26:05]

“Being loved and receiving someone’s love doesn’t mean, necessarily, that they become a burden. You’re anything but a burden.” — Zoë Kors [0:32:09]

“If you don’t love yourself, how can you allow somebody to love you? If you don’t love yourself, it’s also harder to love the other person.” — Andrew [0:35:16]

Links Mentioned in Today’s Episode:

Zoë’s Website

Zoë’s Book

Zoë’s Program

Zoë’s Coaching

Zoë’s Retreat