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Wired for Love

How Understanding Your Partner's Brain and Attachment Style Can Help You Defuse Conflict and Build a Secure Relationship

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Wired for Love

By: Stan Tatkin PsyD MFT
Narrated by: Michael Hinton
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"What the heck is my partner thinking?" is a common refrain in romantic relationships and with good reason. Every person is wired for love differently, with different habits, needs, and reactions to conflict. The good news is that most people's minds work in predictable ways and respond well to security, attachment, and rituals, making it possible to actually neurologically prime the brain for greater love and fewer conflicts.

Wired for Love is an innovative guide to understanding your partner's brain and enjoying a romantic relationship built on love and trust. Synthesizing research findings drawn from neuroscience, attachment theory, and emotion regulation, this audiobook presents 10 guiding principles that can improve any relationship.

©2011 Stan Tatkin (P)2015 Tantor Conflict Resolution Marriage & Long-Term Partnerships Relationships Human Brain Romance Self Help Self Love Marriage Help

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"A marvelous resource." (Rick Hanson, PhD, author of Buddha's Brain)
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This audiobook maps out how to have successful long term relationships. The guidance & principles provided are easy to understand and apply to daily life

very helpful

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Highly recommend for sensical solutions. Problem solving at its finest. Good exercise recommendations for any relationship, be that romantic, familial or friendship - applied skills that are applicable to all.

Interdependence

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My partner and I become aware of our attachment styles and began researching attachment styles and how to navigate each other’s seemingly opposing needs. We read attached which wasn’t bad, but when my partner found this one we both really connected to it more and the way in which it talks about connecting and gives exercises to try to help create our “couple bubble”. We really liked this book and got a lot from it.

Best couples support book we’ve read

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This book is the best out of dozens of books on relationships I have read in my life. I recommend it to any and every couple out there. Regardless of gender.

It changed how I relate romantically and socially.

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Hoping to put it into practice, if my marriage doesn't improve it's because I did not do as I was told. Explained everything clearly and gave good case studies.

The best so far

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This book felt like homework and was so incredibly dull. Which is weird for me, because personal growth, and particularly relationship work and growth is a core value for me. This book felt elementary, good for some totally new to this work. The examples provided of some arguments between couples sometimes provided some insights, but mostly just highlighted how toxic some people are with each other, and reminded me about how I used to be years ago.

I’m looking for deeper work in this field, this wasn’t it but I got myself to sit through every long hour of it.

Important information but not pleasurable to listen through

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I was really looking forward to this book as I'd heard so many rave reviews. However I found the heavy use of jargon un-necessary and the dialogues/examples banal and cheesy. If you are interested in the subject of attachment theory I would recommend Attached over this book.

Attached is better

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