In this episode I’m going to talk about being nice. Did you know that it is possible to be too nice?

But wait! Isn’t it nice to be nice? Don’t we want more nice people in the world? Well of course, but if you’ve been listening to other episodes of The ACT Counsellor you’ll probably have an idea of where I’m heading with this.

Do you sometimes think that you are too nice?

In this episode, I’m going to delve a bit deeper into why being ‘nice’ isn’t always as beneficial as it might sound and what to do instead. Book a discovery call with Angela: https://my.powerdiary.com/clientportal/chrysalis Download a free 'Grounding Technique' pdf: www.chrysaliscounselling.com.au/grounding

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Do you often say yes when you really want to say no?

I used to do this all the time. I was so agreeable. I don’t think I knew how to say “No”. Someone would ask me to do something, and I would immediately say, “Yes”, then I would realise afterwards that I really should have said, “No”, I would then build resentment towards the person for asking me to do something, and then realise that they actually have every right to ask, and I have every right to say “No”.

I would then chastise myself for saying “Yes”, tell myself that I needed to get better at saying “No”. The next time I was asked to do something, I would say “Yes”.

Is it like this for you too?

It seems to me that learning to set boundaries is a really important skill, and one that we need to, firstly develop an awareness of, and secondly, practice. If you would like to find out more about individual counselling with me, you can book a discovery call here: https://my.powerdiary.com/clientportal/chrysalis Or head over to my website at www.chrysaliscounselling.com.au

Hello and welcome to episode #11 of The ACT Counsellor.

I have been a counsellor and consultant in Bendigo Central Victoria, Australia where I have a private practice. I also see clients in the ‘online space’ from various places in Australia. Certainly, online delivery of services has increased over the

Looking back now, through all of that I wasn’t always crystal clear on my values. Well, I kind of, might have been, sometimes, if someone asked me. But I certainly didn’t have the clarity that I have now.

There were many times that I felt really overwhelmed. I was juggling being a mum and trying to make ends meet and be the best teacher I could be, all the while trying to cope with some pretty terrible things that had happened, but keep up the appearance of a person who was coping. Nevertheless, but some of my values shine through when I reflect on that time. Values like contribution, knowledge, education, fairness, justice were all there below the surface, guiding my choices.

In this episode I’ll be talking about the importance of getting crystal clear on what truly matters to you. If you would like to find out more about working with me you can book a discovery call here: https://my.powerdiary.com/clientportal/chrysalis

To join my online workshops and courses waiting list, please click here: https://www.chrysaliscounselling.com.au/waitlist Take care, Ange