In this insightful episode of 'Between, Over & Next", hosts Holli and Robert sit down with relationship expert Carol J. Bruess, PhD, to delve into the intricate dynamics that make relationships thrive. She has been a researcher, author, social scientist, teacher, and speaker passionate about how humans create happy, healthy relationships and marriages through micro-moments of interaction, ritual, and dialogue for more than three decades. Revisiting a conversation that began in 2008 on their Wedding Podcast Network Lovecast show, they explore the balance between the art and science in marriages, offering listeners actionable advice on fostering strong, loving connections. Carol emphasizes the power of daily affirmations, kindness, playfulness, and maintaining connections in the digital age. By embedding these practices into daily life, couples can navigate challenges with greater ease. Carol also unveils her upcoming book project focused on empathy and dialogue. Tune in to listen to the full episode for a deeper understanding of these valuable insights on nurturing strong, loving, long-lasting relationships. In This Episode 0:00 Secrets to Happy Marriages with Relationship Expert Carol Bruess 5:13 The Art and Science of Relationships 8:18 The Power of Rituals and Playfulness in Happy Relationships 21:24 Key Elements for a Flourishing Relationship 27:05 Understanding Love Languages and Family Communication 30:29 Navigating Marital Challenges with Unique Approaches 32:10 The Importance of Generosity in Professional and Personal Growth 35:06 Balancing Digital and Face-to-Face Interactions for Healthier Relationships 39:21 Carol Bruess on Dialogue, Empathy, and Her Upcoming Book Project 42:14 Rituals and the Joy of Shared Adventures 44:07 Navigating Conflict and Growth in Relationships 45:48 Strengthening Relationships and Deepening Connections Key Takeaways Daily Affirmations: Regularly affirming your partner strengthens the relationship and ensures they feel valued and appreciated.Rituals of Connection: Small, consistent rituals such as hugs, nicknames, or shared games can significantly enhance the emotional bond between partners.Importance of Playfulness: Incorporating playful moments and maintaining a sense of fun helps keep the relationship youthful and resilient.Managing Conflict with Grace: Learning to disagree respectfully and granting each other grace during conflicts cultivates a healthier, more understanding partnership.Self-Talk: Positive self-talk and managing internal narratives about your partner are crucial for a successful relationship. Carol Bruess Quotes "Our relationships need daily deposits… of affirmation, kindness served with grace and positive self-talk.""We all need playful moments. A shared delight means a shared set of endorphins in your body, and then you get to share it with each other. A powerful moment of experience.""These moments of language sharing are little moments of ritual. And they do a whole host of really profound things for our marriages. They build a connection. They bond us. They say to the other person, I know you in a way that no one else does." "Be generous with your time and your resources and with giving credit and especially with your words.""We have to prioritize face-to-face micro-moments where we are with each other because we have a loneliness epidemic.""If something is important to you and me as a ritual of connection in our relationship, in our marriage or our friendship or our family, it's because we've given it meaning.""We have to expect anything worthwhile to take a long time." ABOUT CAROL J. BRUESS, Ph.D, Relationship Social Scientist | Author | Speaker | Radical Encourager Carol Bruess has a PhD in relationship communication and is Professor Emeritus of Communication and Family Studies at the University of St. Thomas, MN. She serves as Scholar in Residence for Relationships & Dialogue at the College of St. Benedict and St. John’s University, Minnesota. The author of five books, she has a popular TEDx Talk “Are All Relationships Messy?” and has published her research in dozens of peer-reviewed journals and books. Dedicated to translating research into actionable, practical tools for creating human connection, she is a University of Washington / Gottman Relationship Institute, Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work Certified Educator, and a highly sought-after provider of community-based workshops on nurturing healthy families and marriages. Carol is also a contributing writer at TED.com on human interaction and has given more than 400 TV, podcast, radio, and media interviews, including MPR, NPR, CBS, NBC, ABC, The New York Times, and PBS. She's been married for 32 years to St. Bens/St. John’s president, Dr. Brian Bruess, and they have two adult children (Tony, 28, a tech entrepreneur living in Manhattan, New York; and Gracie, 24, a second-year med student in Wisconsin). They also have one 4-legged child: 95lb Bernedoodle George, a...
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