Have you ever been told to stop upsetting others? Messages like: ‘Don’t upset your mother, your father, your siblings or your friends?’ But what does ‘upsetting’ mean? The set-up for ‘don’t upset others’ often starts in childhood. I want to discuss why this phrase and position is an emotional trap! The trap of ‘don’t upset others’ teaches you to be secretive, to live inside your head, to not communicate, to be quiet and to feel that you have to walk on eggshells. So how do you stop being set- up? I’ve got 5 starter tips to think about and 3 exercises to help you stop being setup by this emotional trap.  

In this episode you’ll learn:

• Why the phrase “don’t upset others” is an emotional trap
• 5 starter tips to stop being set-up by this message
• Two exercises to help you avoid this emotional trap

RESOURCES & LINKS:

Download our guide “3 Proven Steps to Control Anger"

Free Guide →https://www.emotional-gym.com/3steps

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Fear and anxiety are normal healthy emotions. Yet many of us have been told to override our fear, to be strong, tough and to show no fear. Likewise, anxiety has become toxic with no redeeming features. Today we are going to explore why it is essential to be in tune with fear and anxiety to build emotional fitness. I share two exercises to help you tone up your fear and anxiety muscle.   

In this episode you’ll learn:

• The difference between fear and anxiety
• How to practice getting back in tune with fear and anxiety
• Two exercises to tone up your fear and anxiety muscle

RESOURCES & LINKS:

Download our guide “3 Proven Steps to Control Anger"

Free Guide →https://www.emotional-gym.com/3steps

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Join Andy Keefe and myself for a fascinating discussion about the importance of keeping emotions in motion. Andy describes how he successfully combines his work as a psychotherapist and a personal trainer. He works effectively with clients by using his therapeutic skills, EMDR, physical exercise, core strengthening and boxercise.

Exercise is crucial for emotional fitness, lifting and changing mood, moving depression and releasing blocked emotion. Andy discusses how the body holds trauma and emotion and when we trust the intelligence of the body, it knows how to release it through motion.

Andy talks in depth about the interconnection of body and emotions which we are often unconsciously aware of the affect. Every sensory experience the body has had will translate into the sensory motor system, recording it and communicating this data to the muscles and joints. Learning to listen and pay attention to intelligence of the body is crucial in developing emotional fitness.

Andy leaves us with three key exercises to help us tune into the body and keep emotions in motion.

• Complete cardio and complex movement work
• Work on strengthening your Core – building strength lift moods
• Exercise outside

RESOURCES & LINKS:

Download our guide “3 Proven Steps to Control Anger"

Free Guide →https://www.emotional-gym.com/3steps

Andrew Keefe - East London and City Psychotherapist - https://www.eastlondonandcitypsychotherapist.com/

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Many of us can spend time trying to be somebody else, being the person that we think other people want and will accept. So we end up moving away from being real, and seek to wear a mask. This can of course be exhausting, always performing, being ready and on guard. Today, we look at what it means to be authentic and how we can be an authentic version of our self. We consider what it is that prevents us from being authentic and give you 3 tips to help you move closer to your authentic self.  

In this episode you’ll learn:

• What it means to be an authentic person
• What prevents you from being your authentic self
• 3 tips to move closer to your authentic self

RESOURCES & LINKS:

Download our guide “3 Proven Steps to Control Anger"

Free Guide →https://www.emotional-gym.com/3steps

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That ‘in love’ state is electric. The energy of the honeymoon phase with the expectations, the thrill, sex on tap, it feels like the lover is ‘living on cloud nine’. The feelings of excitement, joy and energy doesn't seem to cease. Romance delusion is so seductive due to the power of that amazing feeling, but is it about love for the other, or is it about love for myself. Sorry to burst the bubble – but today I discuss why romance is a myth and an unhealthy way of thinking and acting regarding love and relationships. Love takes work and action. Love cannot grow without being consistent, trustful, thinking of the other and wanting the best for them. The work of love isn’t ever done – it’s not magic. It is our responsibility to love, to make love work and to aim for relational growth. 

In this episode you’ll learn:

• Why romance is unhealthy for relationships
• How to work at growing your relationship
• Three exercises to help relational growth

RESOURCES & LINKS:

Download our guide “3 Proven Steps to Control Anger"

Free Guide →https://www.emotional-gym.com/3steps

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Do you rage? Do you find yourself exploding with anger? Has your anger exploded where you went from zero to hundred in a second? Have you found yourself shouting, abusing others or throwing things around? Have you totally lost it and have no idea why? Rage is one of the most common reasons men book up an appointment to see me in my practice. Today, I will help you understand why you rage and what you can do to stop it! I finish with two exercises if you are struggling with rage right now.

In this episode you’ll learn:

• What unhealthy rage looks and sounds like
• How to notice your rage and what you can do to stop it
• Two exercises help you stop raging 

RESOURCES & LINKS:

Download our guide “3 Proven Steps to Control Anger"

Free Guide →https://www.emotional-gym.com/3steps

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We all breathe – but how many of us give attention to our breathing? Do we breathe through our mouth or our nose? Do we over-breathe? And how do our breathing patterns change our emotions? In today’s episode, I breakdown how different breathing patterns can affect your emotional wellbeing. I discuss how different ways of breathing, like nasal breathing, over-breathing and rapid breathing, change your emotional state. I finish with two breathing exercises to help your emotional wellbeing. 

In this episode you’ll learn:

• Why breathing matters for your physical and emotional health 
• The connection between different breathing patterns and your emotional state
• Two breathing exercises to help your emotional wellbeing 

RESOURCES & LINKS:

Test your emotional fitness to receive a free mental health plan.

Free Emotional Fitness test →https://www.emotional-gym.com/test

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Have you got an emotional six-pack? When was the last time you worked on strengthening your core? Today I would like to introduce you to the six pack of emotional strengths that can be at the heart of who you are. When we think about a physical six-pack, we may think of hardness, definition, focus, control, leanness, discipline, strength and hard work. Developing an emotional six-pack will require similar dedication, focus and awareness. It is about how we learn to treat ourselves and others emotionally. I finish this episode with two exercises to help you develop your emotional six-pack. Developing your six-pack of emotional strengths will be key in the development of your emotional fitness.

In this episode you’ll learn:

• Why an emotional six-pack is important for emotional fitness
• The six-pack of emotional strengths
• Two exercises to develop your emotional six-pack

RESOURCES & LINKS:

Test your emotional fitness to receive a free mental health plan. Free Emotional Fitness test →https://www.emotional-gym.com/test

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