Episodes

  • Eps 528: Helping teenagers make better decisions with Dain Heer

    Eps 528: Helping teenagers make better decisions with Dain Heer
    Nov 18 2024
    My guest today is Dain Heer and we’re talking about helping teenagers make better decisions through judgment, communication, & choices. We discuss how to react when we know our teenagers are making decisions that (we believe) aren’t in their best interest. Dain shares tools & strategies for communicating with others, including our youth, when they have different points of view. We talk about the difference between teaching right and wrong versus the power of choices. We get into the feeling of urgency & reactivity that comes with raising our kids. Takeaways from the show Access Consciousness The importance of feeling seen What gets in the way of being seen without judgment? Finding compassion instead of dismissing teens “Just because it’s messy doesn’t mean it’s wrong” “Your choice creates” language Teens haven’t developed their filters Awareness comes from experiences The urgency & reactivity that comes from raising adolescents For more show notes, including transcripts, visit our website here. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
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    59 mins
  • Eps 527: Teenagers, driving and safety

    Eps 527: Teenagers, driving and safety
    Nov 14 2024
    This was such a fun episode to create! A parent in the Joyful Courage for Parents of Teens opened up about their concerns for their 15-year-old daughter, who’s beginning to ride with friends who are new drivers. As her peers gain driving experience, this parent is feeling understandably anxious about safety and how to guide their teen through this phase. I acknowledged these valid concerns and suggested a reframing approach, focusing on building trust in teens’ growth through their experiences. While emphasizing the importance of safety, I encouraged open, ongoing conversations about responsible driving to help build awareness and accountability. I also recommended that parents engage their teens with questions about friends’ driving behaviors and reinforce family rules constructively. To help manage parental anxiety, I shared practical tools like deep breathing, recognizing fears, and reframing thoughts to foster trust in the learning process. Allowing teens to make mistakes within safe boundaries, I explained, helps build their decision-making skills and strengthens the parent-teen relationship. Watching teens gain independence is challenging, but it’s a crucial step in their development. Find more show notes and info about our sponsors at: https://www.besproutable.com/podcasts/Eps-527-Managing-our-fears-about-teenagers-and-driving/ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
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    36 mins
  • Eps 526: School avoidance and school refusal with Jenell Kheriaty

    Eps 526: School avoidance and school refusal with Jenell Kheriaty
    Nov 11 2024
    My guest today is Jenell Kheriaty, and we’re talking about school avoidance & school refusal. We discuss what school refusal is and if there’s certain “types” of kids who are predisposed to school avoidance or school refusal. Both Jenell and I share how we support families who are struggling with their teens not going to school, some specific questions you can ask your teen about school, and how and why parents need to stay curious about their teen’s school experience., We talk about how to handle our own feelings when changes are not happening as fast as we want. We get into figuring out if your child’s school is a good fit, finding alternative options to your neighborhood high school, and checking our own assumptions about our teen’s journey in school. Takeaways from the show School refusal is typically not a case of defiance, it’s an act of protection All kids, even successful high-achievers, can struggle with school avoidance School refusal is a symptom of something else going on “Be curious, not judgmental” When our timeline doesn’t line up with their timeline When your teen has a different temperament and stress tolerance than you do Alternative schooling options Trusting the process, trusting the journey Maintaining relationship during the bumpy times For more show notes, including transcripts, visit our website here. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
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    54 mins
  • Eps 525: Support for parents with unmotivated teens

    Eps 525: Support for parents with unmotivated teens
    Nov 7 2024
    In today’s episode, I respond to a parent in the Facebook community who is seeking support for an “unmotivated” 14-year-old, wanting a coach for help with goals, motivation, executive functioning, and self-care, ideally within budget and virtual. I explore the difference between being “unmotivated” and “uninspired,” suggesting that teens may seem unmotivated due to broader issues like discouragement or lack of inspiration. Instead of trying to “fix” teens, I encourage listeners to reframe the situation by asking, “What is getting in my child’s way?” I emphasize curiosity, encouragement, and a connection-based approach, allowing teens to express their needs and experiences without judgment. I also remind parents to avoid labeling, stay present, and focus on personal growth, trusting that their child will ultimately find their way. Find more show notes and info about our sponsors at: https://www.besproutable.com/podcasts/eps-525-support-for-parents-with-unmotivated-teens/ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
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    34 mins
  • Eps 524: Insights on being a young adult with Rowan O’Roarty

    Eps 524: Insights on being a young adult with Rowan O’Roarty
    Nov 4 2024
    I am really excited about my guest today, and I have a feeling you will be, too! My amazing daughter, Rowan, is back to give us an update on her life. She talk about everything from teen mental health, navigating ADHD as a teen and young adult, the college journey, and more! I ask Rowan what she’s learned in her first few years of adulthood while juggling working, living on her own, and going to school. We talk about motivation versus discipline, lessons learned through experience, changing perspectives, and boundaries. Rowan wraps us up by sharing what she wishes Gen X knows about the young adults of today. Takeaways from the show Describing and revisiting tough times & emotions Returning to (and loving) college Changing your mindset to achieve your goal Learning how to be a college student Navigating ADHD diagnosis & medications The pressure of early adulthood Takeaways from the first few years of being on your own Motivation versus discipline Lessons are learned through experience How we respond to our kids when they are having a hard time influences the relationships we have with them later Perspectives changing as you age and get out of the thick of it Finding the humor, joy, and not taking life too seriously For more show notes, including transcripts, visit our website here. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
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    48 mins
  • Eps 523: Exploring the layers of our teens experience and inviting them into their higher selves

    Eps 523: Exploring the layers of our teens experience and inviting them into their higher selves
    Oct 31 2024
    Inspired by my conversation with Annie Donaldson this week, I explore the layered experience of being a teen and offer some ideas around how to invite them to consider their higher selves. Our teens are deep and thoughtful. Listen in for tips and strategies around communication and connection. See all show notes and information about our sponsors at: https://www.besproutable.com/podcasts/eps-523-exploring-the-layers-of-our-teens-experience-and-inviting-them-into-their-higher-selves Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
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    46 mins
  • Eps 522: Encouraging spirituality to support mental health for teens with Annie Donaldson

    Eps 522: Encouraging spirituality to support mental health for teens with Annie Donaldson
    Oct 28 2024
    This episode is an interview with Annie Donaldson, coach for teens. We spend our time talking about how spirituality and considering a higher power and bigger picture can be helpful to our teens as they move through adolescence and navigate the beginning of realizing that change in life is the only constant. This conversation isn't about religion, but it is about deeply considering, sharing and normalizing conversations about our spiritual selves. Check it out and let me know what you think! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
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    50 mins
  • Eps 521: Teenagers and lying

    Eps 521: Teenagers and lying
    Oct 24 2024
    Getting into the nitty-gritty of how to navigate the lies we may be hearing from our kids. Why is it so triggering? Why do they do it? What is the most useful way to respond? And how can we keep in mind that mistakes (like lying) are opportunities to learn and grow? Listen in and we can dive into all of these questions together! Find more show notes and info about our sponsors at https://www.besproutable.com/podcasts/Eps-521-Teenagers-and-lying/ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
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    31 mins