In this mini-episode, Kate shares practical, compassionate tips on how to start the divorce process when your ex-partner isn’t quite on the same page yet — and how to choose a legal service that works for both of you. This episode will be helpful for anyone who has decided their relationship has come to an end, and would like to share the news with their ex-partner in a kinder way. If you want to separate amicably, try following a few of our tips for a smoother, kinder transition to ending your marriage.

About the episode:

Kate starts by explaining the emotional journey of divorce. She offers guidance on how to approach initial conversations with your ex-partner, including making sure that they know you want a divorce, and how to introduce the idea of using a service like amicable. Kate also explores why amicable is different to the two-lawyer (typically combative) approach, and why a couples service can reduce stress, save money and time when you decide to split. This episode is all about meeting your ex where they are, reducing friction, and laying the groundwork for a respectful and cooperative split.

More resources:

We'd love to know how we can help you further. Share your questions on divorce, separation and co-parenting with us at hello@amicable.co.uk, through direct messages on Instagram or by starting a new forum thread on amicable’s advice forum. They might just be the topic of a future episode!

You can also get in touch with amicable for more information on the legal, financial and parenting aspects of separation. Book a free 15-minute consultation with an amicable expert today.

#EmotionalJourney

In this episode, Kate is joined by Cate Mackenzie, a Sex and Relationship Therapist, to discuss dating post-divorce. Tune in for an amazing mix of actionable tips, real-life stories and even a mini-coaching session to get you started. This episode is fantastic if you want to build up your confidence after a relationship breakdown.

About the episode:

Kate and Cate start by exploring why dating is so difficult after divorce and separation. They then talk about why your friends can be a great help in making dating less daunting and scary and how to make dating apps work for you. Cate also explains how to date when you might be feeling emotionally vulnerable and questioning your dating readiness. Cate encourages checking in with yourself and managing expectations when you get ready for your first dates post-divorce. They even speculate on how to make our schedules work for our love life and whether it’s possible to have a ‘Wednesday-only’ relationship. Cate analyses different flirting techniques and how to uncover and lean into your natural style, which might be something you least expect … They finish the podcast by sharing some key tips on how not to get overly attached too quickly and essential online safety.

Just a heads-up that this episode contains sexual references, so you might want to listen out of earshot of any children.

About our guest:

Cate Mackenzie is a Sex and Relationship Therapist specialising in attachment and self-expression. She has been the Dating Coach on Channel 4’s “The Undateables”, Flirting Coach for The Jeremy Vine Show on Channel 5 and Sex Therapist on Channel 4’s Kinky Britain. She is regularly in the press, has two podcasts “Love, pleasure and joy” and “Cate Mackenzie’s meditations” and runs workshops on flirting, dating, attachment and being open to love again after challenging experiences.

More resources:

You can learn more about Cate Mackenzie on her website and on Instagram. For more tips on dating and relationships, check out Cate’s podcast “Love, pleasure and joy”.

You can also get in touch with amicable for more information on the legal, financial and parenting aspects of separation. Book a free 15-minute consultation with an amicable expert today.

We'd love to know how we can help you further. Share your questions on divorce, separation and co-parenting with us at hello@amicable.co.uk . They might just be the topic of a future episode!

#LifeAfterDivorce

This week Kate is joined by Una Archer, founder of Help Your Child Thrive, to discuss handovers, why parents and even children might find them difficult and what you can do to make them easier. Una shares her insights about how to focus on yourself and effectively prepare your mindset for positive handovers.

TW: This episode mentions domestic violence, which may be upsetting for some listeners. If you need support, contact:

• Refuge
• Men's Advice Line

About the episode:

Kate and Una start off by discussing why handovers are often so emotionally-charged for everyone involved. Una then shares some tips on how to make them just a little bit easier. Learn how to manage your nervous system, reframe the role of handovers and stay child-centred throughout those interactions.

About our guest:

Una Archer provides attachment and trauma-informed parenting support for separated parents. With a background in educational psychology and her own experience of navigating separation, Una's approach places children's emotional security at the heart of every parenting decision. Over the past 10 years, she has worked with hundreds of separated parents, helping them with challenges ranging from managing the logistics of moving between two homes to redefining and reinventing the kind of parent they want to be. Her work supports parents in building deeper connection, confidence, and resilience — both for themselves and their children

More resources:

You can learn more about Una and how she can help your child thrive on her website. You can also register for her on-demand webinar, exploring emotional security for separated parents, here

We'd love to know how we can help you further. Share your questions on divorce, separation and co-parenting with us at hello@amicable.co.uk, through direct messages on Instagram or by starting a new forum thread on amicable’s advice forum. They might just be the topic of a future episode!

You can also get in touch with amicable for more information on the legal, financial and parenting aspects of separation. Book a free 15-minute consultation with an amicable expert today.

#Coparenting