The road to partnership isn’t always linear, especially when one of you is fiercely independent and the other is ready to settle down. In this candid season opener, Radical Intimacy returns from a three-year hiatus with a deeply honest and often hilarious conversation between Zoë Kors and her husband Andrew, who joins as co-host for the first time. You’ll hear how they met, what made their three-hour first date over tea and firelight so memorable, and why Zoë almost ended things just as they were getting good. Along the way, they reflect on what it takes to move past fear, redefine independence, and build a partnership rooted in mutual respect, curiosity, and emotional growth. Join us as we relaunch the show and set the tone for a new season of radically real conversations!

Key Points From This Episode:

• Introducing Zoë’s husband, Andrew, co-host for season two.

• The unlikely story of how they met online and started dating.

• Zoë and Andrew’s first date and the factors that made it so special.

• The importance of mutual curiosity and conversation in early dating.

• How past dating patterns and power dynamics had shaped Zoë’s expectations.

• The different places Zoë and Andrew were in when they started dating.

• How a birthday almost became a breakup (and the moment that shifted everything).

• Navigating fear of commitment, independence, and self-protection.

• The moment Zoë finally chose to stay and what made Andrew almost walk away.

• How spiritual and emotional readiness created a strong foundation for their relationship.

• Redefining partnership as a conscious choice, not a loss of freedom.

Quotes:

“I [had] spent 12 years [being] intentionally single. I would date, but I wasn't dating to find a life partner. I had really just enjoyed people's company, and the whole thing was like a big laboratory.” — Zoë Kors [0:12:17]

“The conversation was so good, I felt like I should have had a cigarette afterwards.” — Andrew [0:13:56]

“I wasn't looking to fill a hole. I did that with my Zen training and my decades and decades of spiritual journey.” — Andrew [0:30:49]

“I'm always scared of losing freedom.” — Zoë Kors [0:31:30]

Links Mentioned in Today’s Episode:

Zoë’s Website

Zoë’s Book

Zoë’s Program

Zoë’s Coaching

Zoë’s Retreat

In my first solo episode of The Radical Intimacy Podcast, I read the first Chapter of my upcoming book, Radical Intimacy: Cultivate the Deeply Connected Relationships You Desire and Deserve. In this first chapter, "More Than Sex," I share my perspective of intimacy by drawing two important distinctions: 1. That intimacy is much more complex and dimensional than just sex. Of course, sex is one part of intimacy, but there's more. 2. That our limited understanding of intimacy has the achievement of it dependent on someone or something outside of ourselves. In actuality, the nature of intimacy is vast and readily accessible to each and every one of us individually. I also talk about my own sexless ten year marriage in my 20s, and how that set me on a lifelong exploration and understanding of all kinds of intimacy on all levels. If you like what you hear in this episode, there are thirteen more chapters and a collection of exercises and practices which will help you create the deeply connected life you desire and deserve.

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Zoë Kors’ Links:

Zoë’s Website

The Radical Intimacy Podcast

Coral: Sexual Wellness App

Welcome to another episode of the Radical Intimacy podcast! Today we are joined by licensed psychotherapist, sexuality counselor, and best-selling author, Dr. Ian Kerner to talk about sex scripts. We find out what a sex script is, exactly, and how the structure of it makes room for spontaneity in the bedroom. Dr. Kerner shares his approach to encouraging couples to rewrite their sex scripts in therapy, and what his clients typically find challenging. We discuss the power of psychological arousal, open communication, and shared fantasy, as well as the important distinction between consensual and non-consensual objectification. Furthermore, Dr. Kerner shares his insight into the damaging repercussions of pornography, and the principal differences between mainstream and ethical porn. Tune in to find out how to rewrite your sex script!

Key Points From This Episode:

• What inspired Dr. Ian Kerner to write So Tell Me About The Last Time You Had Sex and what the title signifies, in terms of his sex therapy approach.

• What a sex script is and why it’s important to structure your sex life.

• The power of psychological arousal.

• The benefits of sexual dialogue and shared fantasy.

• What it means to have safety in a sexual relationship.

• Face-to-face psychological arousal versus side-by-side experiences.

• The ethical erotica available to us!

• How people are yet to exercise and explore their erotic imagination.

• The difference between consensual objectification and non-consensual objectification.

• The damaging repercussions of pornography.

• The difference between mainstream porn and ethical porn.

• Sex as a resource for positivity in a relationship.

• The importance of communication with yourself and your partner.


Links Mentioned in Today’s Episode:

Dr. Ian Kerner

Dr. Ian Kerner on Twitter

She Comes First: The Thinking Man's Guide to Pleasuring a Woman

So Tell Me About the Last Time You Had Sex Our Love Lives

Ian Kerner TED Talk


Zoë Kors’ Links:

Zoë’s Website

Zoë’s Book: Radical Intimacy

The Radical Intimacy Podcast

Coral: Sexual Wellness App