Sex is a vital part of human life. But how best do we approach it? Western society sends mixed messages about sexuality. We’re not taught how to understand our relationship to our bodies. This often leads to feelings of shame, avoidance and in extreme cases, toxic and dangerous behaviour. We should all strive to be authentic and ignoring or masking our sexuality can only lead to negative outcomes.

But where should we start? Right here, My guest today is Nadja Lasbeck, she's an intimacy coach, relationship therapist, lecturer & a mother.

Nadja and I discuss:

How to raise children in a sex positive environment

If Butterflies are a prerequisite for chemistry

Why we SHOULDN’T compromise in relationships

The Role of shame in blocking intimacy

The Difference between fantasy and desire?

What the definition of a friendship crush is.

If BJJ is a bit gay

Whether we should keep our socks on or off in bedroom

How to communicate discomfort in the bedroom

The role of culture in shaping sexuality

Masculinity

The difference between sensuality and sexuality

and… Euro Trash

Please enjoy this beautiful exploration of sexuality, with Nadja Lasbeck.

Keywords: sexuality, relationships, intimacy, shame, communication, culture, sex-positive, desire, fantasy, therapy, sexuality, relationships, personal growth, modern relationships, media, self-work, body image, desires, friendship crushes, compromise, non-monogamy

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Chapters

00:00 Introduction and Personal Challenges

01:31 Nadja's Journey to Becoming a Sex and Couples Therapist

11:02 Cultural Differences in Attitudes Towards Sex

17:48 Exploring Kinks as a Tool for Healing Trauma

27:21 Navigating Discomfort and Setting Boundaries in Intimate Relationships

35:26 Becoming More Secure: Practising and Drilling Behaviours

40:30 Navigating Cultural Expectations and Societal Messages Around Sexuality

44:09 Authenticity and the Complexities of Masculinity

50:26 Exploring Sensuality and Sexiness

56:54 Parenting and Instilling a Healthy Approach to Sexuality

01:11:05 Exploring Masculinity and Jiu-Jitsu

01:14:10 The Role of Physical Touch and Intimacy

01:15:24 Childhood Experiences and Relationship Dynamics

01:22:00 The Influence of Media on Sexuality

01:32:49 Navigating Friendship Crushes

01:39:21 Comfort and Boundaries in the Bedroom

01:40:52 The Pitfalls of Compromise in Relationships

01:45:29 Understanding Non-Monogamy and Communication