173 Releasing this one early to help you reduce any Thanksgiving related stress!

We have a TON of sway over how we feel on a daily, hourly, and even minute by minute basis–-as well as on our ability to connect in the deepest, sweetest, most loving ways with our loved ones.

So very much of this comes down to which part of our nervous system is activated at the moment, and knowing how to activate the parts of it we want “on”, and de-activate the parts we want “off”.

There are very specific steps and skills to doing so, of course.

In this episode, I give you 4 “hacks” to help you intentionally shift into the parts of your nervous system that allow you to feel calm, light, at ease, grounded, connected, playful, relaxed, and joyful.

You’ll learn about when use them, what they help with, and exactly how ot do them, so you can try them out for yourself, and get a taste of being in the nervous system states that not only FEEL the very best, but also allow for the best connection, communication, and interactions with your loved ones.

You’ll also find out why patching together “hacks” like these, although helpful, are not the full solution, and what else you need to make happen if you want to truly develop nervous system resilience and regulation, so you can spend the majority of your waking time feeling calmness, ease, and lightness, and be at your emotional and relational best.

Dive in and start feeling better right away.

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172 If there was one thing I could shout out from the rooftops right now to help all intimate relationships –and really all of humankind and our very planet– what I share in this episode would be it. It is that important.

Have you ever felt a sense of your spouse being “against” you, almost like they’re an enemy, a nemesis, a “bad guy” at moments, if not much of the time?

If so, you are FAR from alone. So many of my clients have told me that they feel that way, even if it is only subtle. And the amount of division people are experiencing in general is at a super high level in so many realms. And, of course, one of them is between intimate partners.

Even in this most intimate and sacred of a relationship, it's all too easy to fall into this sense of being against each other. And as our hearts start to feel hardened to them, it’s like we lose touch with the very tender, real, full of feeling human we fell in love with. They become less 3 dimensional, less human.

But what's really going on is that we lose connection with the part of ourselves that can connect.

This is a very common phenomenon, even in relationships that start out great. And it is a prelude to further disintegration of love– and even divorce.

Listen in to prevent this oh-so-common experience from slowly sucking your relationship of love and connection.

You will learn:

• why, over time, we tend to fall into this sense that our spouse is the “Bad Other” (some of the science, and physiology behind it),
• what it has to do with stress and a maladaptation of our nervous systems to our modern lives,
• what to do about it on various levels,
• and 3 specifics steps to melt it away and feel a sense of remembering the tender human you fell in love with

....so you can connect back to the part of you that CAN connect so beautiful and fully–and STAY connected to it.

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As a sensitive or deep feeling person, your nervous system is more reactive. This matters. Because, importantly, your nervous system is the foundation of not just your emotional well-being, but also your relationships well-being— or it’s lack of well-being!

A chronically overstimulated, stressed out nervous system (which, let's face it, most of us have in our modern world, especially as HSPs) is a loving relationship's biggest enemy.

And, so long as your nervous system stays that way, you’re going to have a much harder time in your relationship in every way. You’ll be like a garden without nourished soil: wilting, fruitless, fried, fragile, and dried out.

Listen in to this bonus episode where I announce a very special opportunity for you to break free of reactivity in life and love at the most foundational level, and build a solid foundation of emotional well-being (that grounded safety and nourishing supportiveness that are the very roots of a deeply loving marriage), so you can:

• Diffuse an argument before it even starts, while keeping your wits and feeling grounded.​
• Stop irritability, feeling easily triggered, overstimulation, and bouts of stress and anxiety, and live with a daily sense of security, peace and even lightheartedness. ​
• Stay connected to that big heart of yours when challenges come up between you and your spouse, instead of turning against each other, so you can navigate them with ease and a true sense of collaboration​.
• Always be able to move into the best state of mind to communicate better than ever before, so you can actually get through to your partner in the ways you've always wanted to (but haven't been able to so far) and finally feel truly heard
• and feel deeper connection, love, and attraction to your partner–and even have more lightness and fun together!
• And more…

Listen in to learn more about how to build the best foundation for a great relationship to grow from.

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Learn all about Foundations of Emotional Well-Being Course; The Root Of A Better Relationship here. And join here.

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